Rafiki Mwema
Keyworkers
Our keyworkers are emotionally robust and model kindness, connection, and commitment.
How it works
You will often hear us talk about connection as a huge part of healing. We do this by assigning a keyworker to each of our children, who begin to build a safe relationship. This role is essential to our children healing and being able to survive emotionally when they leave Rafiki Mwema.
Our staff have to work hard to gain the high level skills required for this role which include:
- Keyworkers need to be emotionally robust
- They need to model kindness, connection and commitment
The challenges
A child working with a key adult can show behaviours that are incredible challenging, illogical and hurtful at times.
They will push the adult away one day and demand copious amounts of time another. They can be over familiar and controlling. They can praise their keyworker or totally ignore them. A successful keyworker will know that this is not personal.
They will maintain the same calm and consistent approach, whilst maintaining respectful boundaries.
The support
A keyworker will encourage a child to reflect on what has happened but not do so in a way that induces shame.
They will help a child to learn to how to ask for help, an amazingly difficult and scary prospect for a traumatised child.
A keyworker will model what a child should expect from other human beings and show how to respond productively when this expectation is not met.
The responsibility
A keyworker should be prepared to apologise when necessary. Sometimes things can go wrong, bad judgements can be made and we need to be human enough to hold our hands up and admit when something hasn’t gone right.
A keyworker should plan ahead, knowing that absence or days off will have a negative effect on their key child. The mind of the child can race and wonder what has happened to that member of staff and possibly blame themselves. There can also be resentment to the adult when they return if the leave has not been handled correctly.
