Finding the right words can be tough, especially when we’re talking about something as difficult as childhood sexual abuse. Sometimes, hearing someone else’s story or learning from an expert can light the way forward. It can make us feel less alone and give us the tools we need to understand, heal, and support one another.
That’s why we’ve put together this list of books and podcasts. Think of it as a gentle starting point. These resources are here to offer comfort, share knowledge, and build a sense of community for survivors, their loved ones, and anyone who wants to learn more. We believe that by sharing these stories and insights, we can help break the silence and create a world that is safer for every child.
Books That Heal and Inform
Reading can be a quiet, personal way to process heavy topics. The books we’ve chosen offer a mix of personal stories, expert advice, and therapeutic guidance. Each one provides a unique perspective on the journey of healing from childhood trauma.
Jayneen Sanders – Championing Children’s Safety
We’re incredibly grateful for Jayneen Sanders, who has supported Rafiki for many years. Jayneen is a passionate author dedicated to creating resources that empower children to understand body safety, consent, and respectful relationships. Her extensive collection of books, available through E2E Publishing, is filled with straightforward, supportive language and practical tools for parents, carers, and educators. Jayneen’s stories help kids build confidence, learn about their rights, and know how to speak up—making her work a cornerstone for families and communities wanting to put children’s safety first. We cannot thank Jayneen enough for her ongoing partnership and enormous heart.
Check out her huge range of books on her website here.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
Why we recommend it:
This book is a cornerstone for anyone wanting to understand how trauma truly affects us. Dr. van der Kolk is a leading expert, and he explains the science behind trauma in a way that’s easy to grasp. He shows how traumatic experiences, especially from childhood, live on in our bodies and brains.
This isn’t just a book about theory. It’s filled with hope. Dr. van der Kolk explores a range of powerful healing methods that go beyond traditional talk therapy, including yoga, mindfulness, and neurofeedback. It helps you understand that healing is possible and that there are many paths to get there. For survivors, it can be validating to see their physical and emotional experiences explained with such clarity and compassion.
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
Why we recommend it:
For many women, this book has been a lifeline. First published decades ago, it remains one of the most comprehensive and compassionate guides for survivors. It speaks directly to you, acknowledging the pain, confusion, and anger that often accompany the healing process.
The Courage to Heal is like having a wise, understanding friend by your side. It walks you through the healing journey step-by-step, from the decision to heal and remembering what happened, to breaking the silence and moving forward into a life of joy and purpose. It’s filled with personal stories from other survivors, making you feel seen and understood. It validates your feelings and assures you that you are not alone on this path.
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
Why we recommend it:
This book changes the conversation from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” This simple shift in perspective is incredibly powerful. Through a series of conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned child psychiatrist Dr. Bruce Perry explore how early life experiences shape who we become.
They break down the complex science of the brain and nervous system, explaining how trauma in childhood can have lifelong effects. But they also show how resilience is built and how healing is possible. The book is deeply personal and accessible, making it a great resource for survivors, as well as for parents and anyone who wants to understand the people around them with more empathy. It helps connect the dots between our past and our present, offering a pathway to greater self-understanding and compassion.
Podcasts That Listen and Support
Podcasts can feel incredibly personal, like you’re part of an intimate conversation. They are perfect for listening while you’re driving, doing chores, or just need to hear a supportive voice. Here are some that we believe offer valuable support and education.
Big Stuff With Danielle Colley
Why we recommend it:
Danielle Colley is a cherished sponsor of Rafiki who has been with us since our very first rental house. She’s not only visited Kenya to meet our staff and children, but continues to offer her support in truly meaningful ways. Each month, Danielle generously provides one-on-one support to Sarah, helping her work through her own ‘big stuff’—the tough emotions and challenges that come from working with trauma every single day.
Her podcast, Big Stuff With Danielle Colley, is filled with heart, honesty, and wisdom. Danielle creates a space for deep conversations about wellbeing, healing, and the courage it takes to show up in the world. For anyone facing difficult feelings or wanting to learn from compassionate, real people, this is a must-listen.
Something Was Wrong
Why we recommend it:
This docu-style podcast shares the real-life stories of people who have experienced emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Each season focuses on a different person’s journey, allowing for a deep dive into the complexities of their experience. The host, Tiffany Reese, handles these sensitive stories with immense care and respect.
Listening to Something Was Wrong can be an incredibly validating experience. It shines a light on the subtle and overt ways abuse can manifest, helping listeners identify red flags and understand coercive control. For survivors, hearing others articulate similar experiences can reduce feelings of isolation and self-blame. It’s a powerful testament to the strength of those who have navigated unimaginable challenges.
The Trauma-Informed Lawyer
Why we recommend it:
While the title might sound specific, this podcast is for everyone. Host Myrna McCallum interviews a wide range of experts, from therapists to social workers to survivors themselves, all through the lens of being “trauma-informed.” This means approaching every interaction with an awareness of how trauma can affect a person’s life and behaviour.
This podcast is incredibly educational. It provides practical insights into how we can all create safer, more supportive environments—in our families, workplaces, and communities. It’s about learning to listen with empathy and respond with compassion. For anyone supporting a survivor or working in a helping profession, the lessons here are invaluable. It empowers you to be a better ally.
The Healing Trauma Podcast
Why we recommend it:
Hosted by certified trauma recovery coach Monique Koven, this podcast is a beacon of hope. Monique herself is a survivor, and she brings a warmth and authenticity to every episode that makes you feel instantly at ease. She combines her personal experience with professional expertise to offer practical tools and strategies for healing.
Episodes cover a wide range of topics, from managing triggers and dealing with shame to rebuilding self-worth and finding joy again. Monique often features guest experts and other survivors, creating a rich and diverse tapestry of healing stories. It’s a gentle, encouraging, and incredibly hopeful resource that reminds you that a full and beautiful life is possible after trauma.
TV Shows & Movies That Spark Awareness and Understanding
Stories told through film and television can reach us in ways that words on a page sometimes can’t. Here are some impactful shows and films that address childhood sexual abuse—each with its own approach, but all intended to raise awareness, reduce stigma, and empower survivors.
The Tale (2018, film)
This powerful autobiographical film by Jennifer Fox explores one woman’s re-examination of her own childhood sexual abuse, challenging how memories shape our personal narratives. The Tale is intense and deeply moving, offering understanding and solidarity to survivors who may be piecing together their own stories.
Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen (2020, documentary)
While this documentary primarily explores representation of transgender individuals in media, it includes honest discussions about vulnerabilities faced by young trans people, including abuse. It’s a vital resource for expanding our understanding of intersectionality, empathy, and the need for safe, supportive environments for all children.
Spotlight (2015, film)
This Academy Award-winning drama is based on the true story of journalists uncovering widespread child sexual abuse within the Catholic Church. Spotlight demonstrates the importance of speaking truth to power, community accountability, and holding systems responsible to protect vulnerable children.
Believe Me: The Abduction of Lisa McVey (2018, film)
A harrowing true story of survival, this film follows Lisa McVey as she endures and escapes abduction and assault, later becoming instrumental in catching her attacker. It’s a story of extraordinary resilience and hope that highlights both the horrors and strength involved in dealing with trauma.
A Final Thought
We know that exploring these topics can be difficult. Please be gentle with yourself. If at any point you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break. Your well-being comes first.
These books and podcasts are here as resources, not requirements. Take what serves you and leave the rest. Our hope is that in these stories and words, you find a piece of your own experience reflected, a new tool for your healing journey, or a deeper understanding to help you support someone you love.
Remember, you are not alone. We are here with you.
Sarah x
